1. TRY TALKING LESS
In the moment, be direct and succinct. Too many words and explanations and children stop listening. They literally tune out.
2.LEAVE OUT YOUR EMOTIONS
When children feel you are angry they focus on your negative emotions instead of their misbehavior. They will stop thinking and debating whether you are too upset in their opinion considering the action done and don’t even deal with the reason that got you upset in the first place. Don't be the bad guy.
3. BE CONSISTENT
Children thrive on structure and consistency. Have a talk with your children or put up a set of notes that explain the consequences of misbehavior. But do not forget you do not want your child to live in a negative environment that only promotes penalties. If you do make a list with consequences, include those following good behavior as well!
For instance:
- Faul language = no TV time or an hour
- Cleaning the dishes = TV time for an hour
. DISCIPLINE WITH LOVE
If you can’t remain calm and limit yelling, walk away for a few minutes to calm down. Always come from a place of love, for instance, “I am trying to help you because I love you. This is not only my rule but also my advice to you. I believe if you follow this advice, you will be happier. I love you.”
